You’re Ready For Marriage When…
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Ministries ~ Scriptural Romance and Godly Courtship
You know you are ready for marriage when “God is
number one” in your personal life, and you want to honor and please
God with your marriage. It takes having a relationship with God through
Jesus Christ for us to understand how to manage our marriage by God’s
design rather than our own.
You’re Ready For Marriage When God is Number
One in your Life
If God is not at the top of your priority list than
what or who is? Where does your spouse fit in on your priority list?
Without faith and trust in God to direct our marriage, we are only what
we can be, selfish! We need God—He is our source for true happiness
and marital bliss. We can listen to the marriage gurus tell us what our
marriage needs and do those things, but if God is not directing our
attitude and actions than it will be ineffective.
So many times, Christians don’t realize how they
become sidetracked and do things according to “what they want” or
“what they think is right”, which almost always leads to failure.
Remember we are only the creation, God is the Creator, that means we
need to get down off the pedestal and humble our lives to God.
You’re Ready for Marriage When You Are Committed to
One Flesh of Marriage
What does “one flesh” of marriage mean to you?
The one flesh of marriage to God means the joining together of two
hearts, minds and spirits in the one flesh of marriage. This means that
everything a spouse does no matter how big or small, or good or bad,
affects the other. In healthy marriage there is no room for independence
from one another or individualistic thinking because these attitudes
affect the marriage tremendously.
Understand you are an individual that can have
opinions and thoughts on things outside of the marriage, but all aspects
that are within the marriage couples need to work together as a team.
They need to encourage and build each other up, be in agreement on
values and beliefs, and carry each other’s burdens. When you separate
yourself from the one flesh of marriage you are rebelling against
God’s plan for marriage, which is the spiritual and emotional oneness
This is why emotional and physical infidelity has
become such commonplace. Couples are separating themselves from the
“one flesh” of marriage. They aren’t really committed to each
other or to the design God planned out for them in their marriage. And that
is the problem.
In society today, people behave selfishly with each
other and then in desperation they wonder how they can “win their
spouse back”. They wonder
why their spouse doesn’t want to have sex anymore and need to find out
ways to intimately attract their own spouse again! They wonder why their
spouse does not love them anymore.
It’s because they are veering away from the path
that God designed for marriage. Most couples are NOT emotionally or
spiritually ready to get married.
You’re Ready for Marriage When You Know What
the Purpose for Marriage Is
Marriage God’s way is daily forgiveness, daily
serving one another and daily acts of kindness (principled love) for
each other. This is how we honor and please God. God created marriage
for his purpose. It is a living symbol of Jesus Christ and the church.
The relationship between Christ and the church represents how God
intends for marriage to be between a man and a woman—loving, caring
and self-sacrificing. Ephesians 5:21-33
Marriage is really not that difficult when couples
manage it God’s way!