Saying No to Your Boyfriend’s Sexual
Advances
Heaven
Ministries
Most young women “give in” to their
boyfriend’s sexual advances because of peer pressure and fear they
will leave the relationship if they don’t give in and have sex. This
is precisely why young people today should NOT ALLOW their emotions to
lead the relationship. Let me ask you this. If you become emotionally
attached and they leave you anyway, how are you going to feel then?
Isn’t it better to not become too attached to someone, at least until
there is a commitment?
Sex between two people is not needed for a
commitment to marriage and anyone who says differently is deceiving you.
Believe me, there are many fish in the sea that will actually love you
for who you are. There is really no need to be in fear of losing a
loser. Am I being too harsh? I don’t think so. God calls them
heathens. Only losers beg for sex after you told them “no” fifteen
times already. Only losers would disrespect your “Godly right” to
remain pure until marriage. Only a loser would defraud your body with
sexual advances after you told them “no”!
It is God’s will that you should be sanctified:
that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn
to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in
passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God; and in this
matter no one should wrong his brother or take advantage of him. (1
Thessalonians 4:3-6)
Remember: Even if the guy says he loves you,
don’t give in. If a man truly loves you, he will not keep trying to
arouse sexual desire within you—he will not take advantage of you! What
he thinks is love is only lust and desire, which never turns into a REAL
commitment for marriage.
Sadly if you do get married to these types, who
only care about sex, they will truly believe that after several months
or a year into the marriage that they are not in love with you anymore
and most likely be unfaithful. That is because they have confused love
with lust. Love would never intentionally harm another person.
“Love is not self-seeking”
(1 Corinthians 13:5) “Love
always protects…” (1 Corinthians 13: 7)
What to Tell Your Boyfriend
First off tell him you respect him and that’s why
you are not going to use him for sex. Let him know that you love God and
you also respect your body and reserve the right to keep it pure for God
and your spouse for marriage one day. Did you know that by having sexual
relations before marriage the Christian would be sinning against God and
defiling the Holy Spirit that lives within him or her?
Show him this scripture: “Do you not know that
your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who lives in you, whom you
have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a
price. Therefore honor God with your body.” (1 Corinthians 6:18-20)
The truth is dating and everything that comes with
dating is NOT scriptural. That’s because dating is a temptation that
leads to sex. For the Christian it is always best to remain platonic
friends until you get to know if they are compatible with you or not. If
the relationship never has any commitment for marriage it is best to
remain friends and never give your heart away—that way no one gets
hurt.
Always be true to yourself and tell any new
friendships of the opposite sex that you are saving yourself for your
spouse, honoring God with your body and are not going to have sex. This
gives the losers, the ones who are only out to disrespect you, a chance
to walk away from the relationship without wasting your time and causing
undue heartache.
No temptation has seized you except what is common
to man. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what
you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out
so that you can stand up under it. (1 Corinthians 10:13)
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