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Finding a Godly Man
For Marriage
Many of you single Christian ladies
may be wondering how on earth you will ever find a Godly man for
marriage. Some of you may even be a little worried that there aren’t
any real Godly men out there to be found. But let me assure you there
are good men with exceptional marriageable qualities somewhere in
God’s kingdom. God knows what you need and He will bless you with your
life-spouse.
I know there are good Christian young
men because my husband and I have raised three sons ourselves and I have
friends that are raising sons in the Lord as well. These young men have
been a blessing to us, and I know they will be a blessing to a Godly
Christian woman someday. That is, when God is ready for them to love and
support a wife.
Where Are The Godly Men Hiding?
Good Christian men, in the Lord,
aren’t hiding out. It’s just that you won’t find them in places
most people look to find relationships, such as at public schools, bars,
parties, rock concerts and the like. Godly men are more quiet, watchful,
shy and humble than the non-Christian men. Therefore they are much more
difficult to spot. You won’t find a good man where Godlessness exists
unless he is on a mission, teaching about Jesus Christ to people.
The Godly man will be more reserved
and thoughtful. The Christ-centered man has been brought up knowing what
his responsibilities are in the Lord, for the preparation to marriage
and for being the spiritual head of his marriage someday. He us not
thinking about dating and any of the aspects that come with the dating
scene. The Godly man is also looking for a potential spouse for him
someday…where do you think he might go to do that. That is where you
can find good Christian friends.
The sincere Christian man is not
hiding, but working on developing his skills and abilities to procure
for his wife and family some day. Godly men can be found in church, home
church, and with family and friends at social gatherings. One of the
core values of sincere Christianity is helping family and being with
family, and so you will most likely find Godly young single men working
with his parents and siblings on a family farm, homestead, or other
family business, whatever that may be.
You will find good men just about
anywhere where it is respectable and decent. Many times you will meet
good friends in the Lord through contacts and through fellowship with
like-minded Christians. Godly men are not looking for the same things in
a young lady as a non-Christian would.
The important thing for the Godly
young lady to understand is that there is nothing wrong with praying
about your future husband and then waiting on the Lord. (Our new
ebook talks about God’s plan for you in the friendship and romance
department)
It is a good idea to be friends with
God-fearing men of like-mind and let God go to work on the rest by
allowing Him to make the decision if the relationship should progress
into the courtship stage. Don’t rush a relationship along by “giving
in with your emotions” and then regretting it later with heartache.
Slow down…let God take over. He knows what you need.
Get to know the true character of your
friendships before allowing yourself to get emotionally involved with
the wrong person. Don’t allow your emotions to lead your friendships
but allow them to follow behind. There is no hurry to rush into
anything.
God wants you to find your life mate
but not if it means to sacrifice your mind and body in the process.
Don’t give any man your mind and body if there is no commitment for
the future, ever! Why on earth would you want to do that? You wouldn’t
want to, believe me, I know this from experience. I too, was once a
young woman looking for love. But I always went to all the wrong places
or gave my body and mind away without ever any commitment. It causes
much heartache and grief, at the time and later on in life. It is
God’s will that His people reserve the sexual union for marriage.
Even if a young man says he is a
Christian you should be discerning anyway. Learn to be quiet with
your emotions and be watchful instead. Patience is a virtue when looking
for potential life-spouses. With time, true character will be revealed
to you and then you can decide, with God’s blessing, if this person is
worth progressing the relationship to the courting stage.
Rest assured there are Godly men out
there who will make honorable husbands. Keep God always first in your
heart, mind and soul in all that you do and one day a Godly man will
be at your doorstep asking for permission to court you. |