Websites Are For the Birds?
© 2008 Heaven Ministries ~ Angie Lewis
How often on those dating websites is
someone really matched up to a compatible partner? If you are looking
for a marriage partner than why are you going to a dating website in the
first place? I think those sites are for people who just want to have
fun and meet someone to have fun with.
The other aspect of the dating scene I need to ask is if you are
a believer than why are you trusting in these matchmaking sites rather
than God to find your soul mate?
The initial euphoria of meeting up
with someone new on the Internet may seem like the right thing to do,
after all, you are lonely and maybe even getting on in years and so why
not find a suitable mate online, right? Wrong. Online dating and even
offline dating is not the right thing to do for anyone, especially the
younger generation. There is still so much to learn and understand about a
marriage relationship that rushing into something you may not be ready
for is asking for trouble.
I totally encourage young single men
and women to earnestly pray for that special someone to come into their
life? Do not put your trust in online dating websites. You might get
hurt. Do you think God does not care about your personal life and
relationships? On the contrary, God will answer your prayers in ways
that you may not be aware of, at least in most instances. It might be
that God would rather you stay single, at this time, so you may apply
yourself towards working for him in whatever capacity that He has given
you to serve with. Or it
could be that God will bless you with your soul mate, but not this month
or not this year. Wait on God – He knows when you are ready to commit.
I believe wholeheartedly that God
blesses single young people, when they are ready, with a suitable
marriage partner. Whether they realize that person is meant for them or
not, is another thing. You see, you’re so busy trying to control the
outcome of meeting up with someone you feel is “The One” that you
don’t realize that God may have already found you a suitable companion
Many people believe they have to be in
control of that special someone, but with God that just is not so. First
of all, God wants to know that you are ready for the big commitment of
marriage. If He thinks you are not ready to be a giver and share
yourself with someone else through the good times and the bad, He is not
going to put that special person before you, at least not yet.
So then knowing this, ask yourself,
“Am I ready to be a giver rather than a taker. Do I want to get
married because I am lonely? Am I really ready to spend the rest of my
life with this person?” “Am I going into this marriage with divorce
as not an option?” Honestly ask yourself these questions.
I think we’re in too big of a hurry
to get married. I know that I was. I rushed marriage and had to go
through a lot of marital ups and downs. These problems almost ruined my
marriage. Thank God, we persevered and got over those personal issues,
but many people are not so lucky. Actually, not so blessed. There are
many problems I see associated with finding love on the Internet.
The first problem I see is the
Internet is not where real love can be found. You will be lucky to find
someone who is a real person and who is being honest with you. God
doesn’t want you to find your soul mate online. Many times you will
not even know who you are talking to anyway. People can lie, and tell
you all kinds of things to boost your ego and reel you in like a fish.
Many online social networking sites
are bait for fishermen. I bet you never heard of that one before.
Don’t get hooked in by a smooth talker. In my opinion, online dating
websites are only for a certain type of people that are a bit desperate
to begin with. Not that you won’t ever meet someone that is nice and
good-looking on a dating website, but that most of the time it just
doesn’t work out. It is a waste of time. Not only that but sometimes
it can be harmful.
The second problem I see is dating
websites are hangouts for pedophiles, predators, rapists and serial
killers. Do you know whom you are talking to? Ask yourself why you are
so eager in the first place to even use these online dating sites.
It’s scary enough going on a blind date and meeting people in person,
but even then you don’t know who they are. In some cases you might
even marry them only to find out they are insane or deranged.
Ponder this: How could anyone base his
or her future on an avatar image of a stranger? Well, throw in some
smooth talking and some flirting to make you feel good about yourself
and soon enough, emotionally you have attached yourself to whoever may
be hiding behind that avatar image.
I highly encourage you to wait on God
for finding the love of your life.
If and when God is ready for you to be married, you will not have
to do a darn thing because God will bless you with the person of your
dreams. Trust in God for your needs and He will provide. “Be Still”!
By waiting on God you will be saving yourself a lot of unneeded problems
in the long run, believe me.