Dating Websites Are For the Birds? 
Copyright © 2008 Heaven Ministries ~ Angie Lewis

How often on those dating websites is someone really matched up to a compatible partner? If you are looking for a marriage partner than why are you going to a dating website in the first place? I think those sites are for people who just want to have fun and meet someone to have fun with.  The other aspect of the dating scene I need to ask is if you are a believer than why are you trusting in these matchmaking sites rather than God to find your soul mate?

The initial euphoria of meeting up with someone new on the Internet may seem like the right thing to do, after all, you are lonely and maybe even getting on in years and so why not find a suitable mate online, right? Wrong. Online dating and even offline dating is not the right thing to do for anyone, especially the younger generation.  There is still so much to learn and understand about a marriage relationship that rushing into something you may not be ready for is asking for trouble.

I totally encourage young single men and women to earnestly pray for that special someone to come into their life? Do not put your trust in online dating websites. You might get hurt. Do you think God does not care about your personal life and relationships? On the contrary, God will answer your prayers in ways that you may not be aware of, at least in most instances. It might be that God would rather you stay single, at this time, so you may apply yourself towards working for him in whatever capacity that He has given you to serve with.  Or it could be that God will bless you with your soul mate, but not this month or not this year. Wait on God – He knows when you are ready to commit.

I believe wholeheartedly that God blesses single young people, when they are ready, with a suitable marriage partner. Whether they realize that person is meant for them or not, is another thing. You see, you’re so busy trying to control the outcome of meeting up with someone you feel is “The One” that you don’t realize that God may have already found you a suitable companion for life.

Many people believe they have to be in control of that special someone, but with God that just is not so. First of all, God wants to know that you are ready for the big commitment of marriage. If He thinks you are not ready to be a giver and share yourself with someone else through the good times and the bad, He is not going to put that special person before you, at least not yet. 

So then knowing this, ask yourself, “Am I ready to be a giver rather than a taker. Do I want to get married because I am lonely? Am I really ready to spend the rest of my life with this person?” “Am I going into this marriage with divorce as not an option?” Honestly ask yourself these questions.

I think we’re in too big of a hurry to get married. I know that I was. I rushed marriage and had to go through a lot of marital ups and downs. These problems almost ruined my marriage. Thank God, we persevered and got over those personal issues, but many people are not so lucky. Actually, not so blessed. There are many problems I see associated with finding love on the Internet.

The first problem I see is the Internet is not where real love can be found. You will be lucky to find someone who is a real person and who is being honest with you. God doesn’t want you to find your soul mate online. Many times you will not even know who you are talking to anyway. People can lie, and tell you all kinds of things to boost your ego and reel you in like a fish. 

Many online social networking sites are bait for fishermen. I bet you never heard of that one before. Don’t get hooked in by a smooth talker. In my opinion, online dating websites are only for a certain type of people that are a bit desperate to begin with. Not that you won’t ever meet someone that is nice and good-looking on a dating website, but that most of the time it just doesn’t work out. It is a waste of time. Not only that but sometimes it can be harmful.

The second problem I see is dating websites are hangouts for pedophiles, predators, rapists and serial killers. Do you know whom you are talking to? Ask yourself why you are so eager in the first place to even use these online dating sites. It’s scary enough going on a blind date and meeting people in person, but even then you don’t know who they are. In some cases you might even marry them only to find out they are insane or deranged.

Ponder this: How could anyone base his or her future on an avatar image of a stranger? Well, throw in some smooth talking and some flirting to make you feel good about yourself and soon enough, emotionally you have attached yourself to whoever may be hiding behind that avatar image.

I highly encourage you to wait on God for finding the love of your life.  If and when God is ready for you to be married, you will not have to do a darn thing because God will bless you with the person of your dreams. Trust in God for your needs and He will provide. “Be Still”! By waiting on God you will be saving yourself a lot of unneeded problems in the long run, believe me.