Dating is Not
Scriptural: Are We Ignoring Godís Moral Lessons?
Heaven Ministries ~ Scriptural Romance and Godly Courtship
Dating in the worldly sense is an
activity that has evolved from courting. Obviously what people used to
value in themselves and in others has shifted their way of thinking and
belief system about relationships, such as seeking inner beauty of
others and being committed for a lifetime in marriage.
happened to these precious things among Christian people and their
relationships? Are we ignoring God's moral lessons for us? Immorality
and deceitfulness has crept into our most precious commodity, marriage
and family! And sadly it has become commonplace.
Love is His Discipline
When we disobey Godís teachings for
us, we harm our body, our minds, and our spirit. We end up in
relationship heartache, we catch diseases, and we dishonor the spirit of
Jesus Christ that lives in us. All of this is emotionally harmful to us.
God loves us and this is why He teaches us how to live and be happy, to
love others appropriately and ourselves.
To the majority, sexual abstinence
seems like an old fashioned thing to do, given that having sex is
accepted of you every time you are with the opposite sex. But lets think
about our spirit for a moment. Are we keeping ourselves spiritually fit
by following the teachings of God in our relationships? Are Christians
pleasing God or themselves? Does the Word of God change to meet the
change in our value system? I donít think so!
The minority (sincere Christians) is
still following in the ways of God and hopefully they will teach their
own children to do the same. Why? Because without God, our Creator we
are NOTHING! Letís get off the pedestals and start living our life for
God through Jesus Christ!
What is Dating?
Dating is an attitude of desire and
lust, plain and simple. God teaches us to not even look at others with
lust in our heart because that is emotional adulteryóit is wrong and
leads to immorality. Lust harms others emotionally and spiritually
because it takes away the beauty of purity within a relationship and for
the preparation of marriage. Itís fine to appreciate beauty but when
we lust after someone we are not using self-control. Lust is the
opposite of appreciation and respect.
Dating is Fornication
Dating, 95% percent of the time
involves fornication and 100% of the time emotional heartache. Friends
do not use each other for sexual pleasure, or do they? Jesus says that
those who practice fornication will not inherit the Kingdom of Heaven.
Wow! That means that everyone who is not married and having sex is not
in the Kingdom of Heaven.
Dating is Jealousy and Mistrust
Dating almost always involves
emotional imbalances. Such emotional negativities stem from being hurt
through the dating process. Giving away yourself sexually and
emotionally causes much grief and heartache when the relationship ends
or when the parties in the relationship begin to show their true selves.
One party in the relationship or both will begin to show their true
character and deceive the other. This is why staying just friends and
not allowing your emotions to lead the relationship is a must if you
want to stay happy, well balanced emotionally, and prepared for a
healthy marriage later on.
Dating is NOT a commitment to a Lasting
Dating is just an easy way to get what
you want from others. But if there is not commitment to marry one
another then we should not be giving away our bodies and hearts to
another. This is why God calls that to arouse passion and lust in
another is fraud. (1 Thessalonians 3:4-7) Look at all the problems
couples are having in their marriages because of lack of commitment.
Dating Teaches to Only Be Interested in
the Outside of a Person
Dating is actually a selfish way to
get to know someone. It is for people who arenít really interested in who
a person is or in getting to know them based on character. Dating
usually sidesteps the inner beauty and character of a person because it
teaches us to be superficial with our relationships. This is why many
marriages do not last as well because couples do the same thing with
their future spouse. Then they get married and donít practice
principled acts of love but instead live by their feelings. They believe
that whatever their feelings tell them, it must be right. But it is
Dating Teaches that Lust is Love
Half of all marriages end in divorce
because couples think they arenít ďin loveĒ anymore. Do you want
this to happen to you in your marriage? Couples really donít fall out
of love, they just donít have the same ďlust feelingsĒ they had
when they first got married. Society is so confused about real love and
itís very sad because most people are going to be deceived and
heartbroken from dating relationships.
Christ teaches us what real love is.
Real love is a sacrificial kind of love. Love means doing something for
another, even if you donít feel like it. To love another means
to consider their feelings. Christ teaches us to love others over
ourselves. Couples can save their marriage by going back to the
principles and moral lessons that Christ taught for us to live by.