Christian Women Don’t Need to
Attract Men
Heaven Ministries
When I read articles about the “laws of
attraction” and “how to attract the man of your dreams” I wonder
how many young women are really falling for this gimmick. Think about
this for a moment. If you have to behave differently, other than just
being yourself to attract the opposite sex, then is the person you are
trying to attract, really someone you would want to have a relationship
with?
Why does a woman feel she needs to “attract” a
man? Will he not be attracted to her if she were to be herself? Is it
appropriate behavior to do things in order to grab the attention of a
man? Does it not make the man feel the woman is easy? Or will she
say no when he wants sex? If she says no, then the attracting thing was
all a sham. But if she says yes then I guess she will just have to go
through the whole rigmarole of the dating scene with him. Or if she
tells him she just wants to be friends and they keep their emotions in
check there won’t be a problem at all.
Don’t get me wrong, I’ve done the dating scene
already and I made many mistakes along the way. I didn’t know anything
about what I am now talking about because no one ever shed some light on
the subject of dating to me. It was “normal” in the 80’s to date
just like it is today. But when we compare “normal” to godly
principles, “normal” really is not that normal anymore. What do you
think? I just want to give you a different perspective on the subject so
you won’t have to go through all the hurt and other emotional and
sexual garbage that comes with dating.
You don’t need to “attract” a man – just be yourself! Everybody is special and everybody has
his or her own special qualities about them that naturally attract
people to them. But if we behave in ways that make us do something
different from the norm just to attract guys then we are not being
honest with ourselves. If we are not honest with ourselves then we
don’t know who we are. If we do not have a positive identity of who we
are, how on earth can we attract good people into our life? The best
policy is always to be yourself, whatever that self may be.
What kind of a relationship are you looking for? Do
you want to be respected and valued for who you are, or do you want to
be disrespected and devalued as a person? When we try too hard to
attract a man into our lives we actually attract, flaky, superficial,
conceited guys that are only out for one thing – sex. Is that what you
are looking for in a relationship? If so, then have at it. But if you
are a good girl, then just be yourself and you will attract the right
man to you.
When we take off the mask and begin living our life
as a child of God, a beautiful worthwhile human being, we attract good
people to us, effortlessly. The more we feel the need to wear clothing
that does not betray the person we are, and when we say and do things
that are not really who we are, we attract shallow people into our
lives. This is why most dating relationships do not work! Most dating
relationships are wishy-washy and emotionally draining because they are
full of unmet needs and emotions.
To all of the young women out there who happen to
be reading this article. Take this bit of wisdom from someone who has
already walked the dating path. Do not be in a big hurry to have a man
in your life. The more you feel pressured, the more likely you are to
behave in ways that are not really who you really are, or to hang out
with the wrong crowd.
There is no pressure to have a man by your side.
Pray about this and ask God to give you the patience and faith to wait
on Him. Get to know your self better. Where do you stand as a child of
God? What is God’s purpose for your life as a woman, and possibly wife
and mother someday? What are you doing now that will help prepare you
for being a wife and mother someday? Do you think that God wants you to
behave in ways that are not the person He created you to be?
God has created a special man to be your husband
someday. I say “someday” because He wants you to be ready for the
“commitment of marriage”. Marriage is a serious commitment to God
– it is not dating anymore, but a promise to love each other forever,
even when tough times come into the marriage. We love even when we
don’t feel like loving. Are you ready to take that step?
The bottom line is God created us to love and to be
loved. That means no one needs to resort to being something other than
what God made him or her to be. We should strive to become all of the
person we can become “through our Creator” and then we will learn
the wisdom to loving and respecting others appropriately. There will be
no need “to attract” or “to be something we are not”.
Christian women don’t need to attract a man they only need to
be “who they are” in the Lord.
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