Values: Career Woman or Helpmeet Wife?
What is more important? Should a Christian woman go
to college to become a career woman or should she learn all she can
about how to be a good helpmeet to her husband and stay happily married
for life? I see much confusion and conditioning in the mainstream
Christian culture of today. When career and money become more important
than commitment and love many good Christian people are being deceived.
You may be wondering how Christians are being
deceived? Sometimes Christians are deceived without ever knowing it
because they have already fallen into a worldly deception, whatever it
might be. Perhaps it is the worldly deception of how a career woman is
somehow better than a homemaker and a wife. Perhaps it is the lie that a
man should allow his wife to boss him around for whatever reason
circulating at the moment?
Who are Christians listening to? What are
Christians watching? What are Christians reading? Where are Christians
going? What do Christians believe in? In other words, what we allow into
our heart and mind we generate within our belief system and we act on it
and we become one with it. Do not be yoked together with unbelievers.
For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? (2 Corinthians
God tells His children to separate themselves from
unbelief and to not be yoked together with the world. This means to not
let the world’s standards, patterns, practices and methods of living
undermine our faith and walk with Jesus. But when worldly views and
attitudes become more important in our hearts than principle we have
compromised ourselves as Christians. We are allowing ourselves to become
yoked with the patterns and practices of the world!
Are some Christians allowing worldly values tell
them how to live rather than God’s standards for living? You bet they
are. They are placing more importance on riches, careers and status than
on marriage and family values. They are believing in worldly views and
attitudes that actually take them away from God! When couples enter into
marriage with wrong values, how on earth will their marriage ever stand
up under that kind of pressure, hence the high rate of divorce.
As Christ Ones we need to rebuild God’s Kingdom
by going back to His standards and principles for righteous living. Will
a young Christian woman learn how to be a helpmeet to her husband by
going to college? Absolutely not, in fact this will keep her from
understanding her role as a wife in marriage and most likely she will
always suffer through problem after problem in her marriage. It’s all
in the attitude of what a young girl has been conditioned into
believing. Young girls are taught to go after a career, money, and
status rather than value herself as a woman, wife and mother.
Consequently this is where the feministic attitude comes into play.
Learning to be a good wife and mother takes
considerable selflessness, humbleness and Godliness. We cannot have
feministic attitudes and views if our goal is to be the wife and mother
that God created us to be. A woman’s calling as a wife and mother is
not about her having a career that takes her away from her home, husband
and children but exactly the opposite. How have we allowed ourselves to
become so deceived into believing the standards, patterns, practices of
this world are Christian based? How has this happened? I think it is
time we turned our boats around and asked God to be our Captain.
As Christ followers we have to wise
up and get back on the path that leads to God. The kingdom of heaven is
here! Why are we living as if we are waiting for something? Have you
entered Christ’s kingdom or are you still living out the world’s
standards, practices and views for living? “These
people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me. They
worship me in vain; their teachings are but rules taught by men.”