College Women Be Submissive With Their Husbands?
2011 Heaven Ministries ~ Godly Courtship in Preparation To Marriage
I’ve noticed a trend from Christian young ladies
in the blogging world. Many of these young women are against feminism
and everything that feminism stands for, and yet, they themselves go to
college. Doesn’t going to college mean having a career? I mean if a
young lady just wants to get a certificate, take a class, or learn an
online trade for working from home, couldn’t she just do that from her
computer at home?
I think these young ladies mean well, and they
truly want to be submissive to their husband’s headship position
someday. But from what I have learned, going to college is like forging
out a livelihood for yourself so you won’t have to depend on a man.
This is the same reason why feminists have careers. Going outside the
home to work for someone else is not helping your husband—its not
being his helpmeet. How can it be helping the family when she is
submitting her life all day long to someone else?
Forgive me if I am wrong here, but it sure seems
oxymoronic to speak of things against feminism and yet do the things
that feminist do, like, go to college and live on their own, and be
independent before getting married.
How will all of this womanly independence benefit a young lady
who says she wants her husband to be “the man” of the
household in his headship position? Is it wise for a young lady to be so
independent before marriage when she wants to be submissive to her
husband’s authority over her someday? I’m not so sure it is.
Most of these young women bloggers that are against
feminism are linked to each other’s blogs and share in the same values
and beliefs and modest dress, but oddly most of them “go to
college”. I’m wondering if these young women are confused about what
it really means to be submissive to their husbands. “Wives
submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.”
A submissive wife is not to be independent on her
own, doing her own thing, but she is to be industrious for her husband
and family where her helpmeet role works with and meets with her
husbands, building up the family unit and the marriage under the
foundations of God. “She looketh well to
the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness.”
(Proverbs 31:27) “The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her,
so that he shall have no need of spoil.” (Proverbs 31:11)
Her help meet role helps her husband be the
head over the family just like Christ is head over the Christian church.
We help Christ to be the head of His church by submitting to His
teachings for our lives. This is what’s meant by helpmeet. “And
the Lord God said; it is not good that the man should be alone; I will
make him an help meet for him.” (Genesis 2:18)
If a married woman were to have a career outside
the home, which is what college is for, then she truly cannot be a true help
meet to her husband because she would be working for someone else,
helping them meet their goals. College teaches independence and
individualism for a woman. The sole purpose for college is to have a
high-paying job afterwards, is it not? College means committing your
life to a career outside of the home; It means to perhaps, not be
home for your children and not being home when your husband comes home,
or the unwillingness to put in the effort that the home and family needs
because you are too tired
after working all day.
Either way, statistics show that college educated
women are going to have a more difficult time staying home, being a
homemaker and being the help meet to their husbands that God has
instructed them to be according to the role he has given them. “That
they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to
love their children, To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good,
obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not
blasphemed.” (Titus 2:4-5)