Ways Career Wives Are A Disadvantage to Marriage and Family
2011 Heaven Ministries - Godly Courtship
In a marriage where the wife has a career it puts a
lot of extra demands and strains on the marriage and family. This
article speaks in generalities and is not intended to be a fact in all
marriages. Not all career
wives cheat, nor do the husbands that are married to them.
1. Working Wives Are More Focused On Their
When a wife goes to work every day her focus is on
her job tasks, her friends, her co-workers, and on the money she is
making. This does not leave very much focus left for her husband and
children. Many wives who work outside the home all day do not have the
energy or inclination to cook nutritious meals for the family. She is
too tired emotionally and physically to be a helpmeet to her husband and
way too tired to make love with her husband.
When a wife is home taking care of the things of
the home and family she is involved with such details, which makes her
undeniably more bonded to her husband and family. She wants to be
intimate with her husband and do more family oriented activities with
her husband and children. The bottom line is the career woman’s
priorities are not in the home. And this goes against everything God
designed for marriage.
2. Working Wives More Prone to Unfaithfulness
If ever there were a study done on marriage and
working wives, I would venture to say that in marriages where the wife
works outside of the home there is more adultery by the wife, and or,
the husband. This is because without the emotional and intimate
attachment of husband and wife, what is holding the marriage together? Intimacy
is the glue that keeps marriage together. The one flesh of
marriage is the intimacy and commitment of a husband and wife. This
emotional breakdown makes both women and men vulnerable to attention and
flattery from the opposite sex.
Reality dictates that lust temptations are higher
among wives who work outside the home, simply because she is working
along side other men who may flatter her and make sexual advances
towards her to make her feel good about herself. I
know for a fact this happens—it is part of working among unbelievers
and people of weak faith. When a man flatters such a woman, who is not
emotionally and or physically intimate with her husband, she is more
prone to give in to lust temptations.
This is what happens in marriage where intimacy is
gone and husband and wife do not share themselves with each other
emotionally, and meet each other’s needs. And of course where faith is
weak and there is no conviction to stay faithful. Now
of course, this is not to say that all women with careers will cheat,
but what it is saying is that women who work in environments with other
men, and who may be having marriage problems such as described above,
are more apt to be unfaithful.
3. Career Women Have a More Independent Attitude
A woman with a career has a different attitude than
a woman who stays home to be industrious in her own home. She carries an
independence about her that literally keeps her emotionally detached
from her husband, whether she realizes this or not. This is also a fact.
Where a woman’s heart is there you will discover her priorities. A
stay at home wife is concerned with the things of the home and a career
woman is concerned with things of her employment or business and self.
When a wife’s priorities are outside of the home
it ultimately makes intimacy between husband and wife strained. A
husband needs his wife emotionally and physically and spiritually and
every which way. Wives should not be neglecting their husband’s needs
because of money. That would be foolish.
He that trusteth in his riches shall fall; but the
righteous shall flourish as a branch. He that troubleth his own house
shall inherit the wind: and the fool shall be a servant to the wise at
Most career women behave bossy and demanding with
their husbands just because of a feministic attitude. Her demanding
attitude makes her become the head of the household. She micromanages
her husband and makes the decisions in the home. Many husbands cower and
cringe to their wives domineership because they don’t want to cause
any waves, or they don’t realize they have given up their headship
role to their wives.
Essentially, it is in her attitude, which makes her
a feminist. She may think she is not a feminist but her behavior and
attitude says otherwise. God did not make man superior over the woman
but to be her protector. God did not make women to be inferior to the
man but to be his helpmeet. Neither
sex is superior or inferior to the other.
God created men and women different. Those
differences compliment and support each other. God created man with
strength and women with femininity; this is how they encourage one
another in their God-given roles.
A Different Perspective
Many people may not see this perspective on this
issue but all you have to do is read and study the bible to understand
God’s perspective and design for marriage. When a woman strives to do
a man’s job outside the home, no matter how much money she makes, it
is a detriment to her marriage and to her family. There are far more
disadvantages to a wife working outside the home than there are
advantages. In fact, there are no advantages except for the money. But
in most respects the money is a disadvantage becomes it takes a woman
away from “seeing” God’s perspective and the money becomes more
important to her than her husband and children. Having a happy
marriage is all about getting our priorities right with God.
Lastly, what happens next, because I’ve seen it
over and over again is the husband, feeling emotionally and sexually
removed from his marriage seeks his needs elsewhere. It is a vicious
cycle. So to sum it all up
the three main disadvantages of a career wife are that her priorities
are out of line, and because of this, intimacy between her and
husband is gone, and because of this unfaithfulness is more prone
to happen. The song is true, “Money can’t buy you love”.
All the paths of the Lord are mercy and truth unto
such as keep his covenant and his testimonies. (Psalm 25:10)
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