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The Role of Husband
and Wife in a Christ-Centered Marriage
Copyright 2010 Heaven Ministries ~ Marriage Healing Ministry
Husbands have been appointed by God to be the overseer’s of their home
and family just as Christ is the overseer of His church. Ephesians 5:
23. God created the man with a certain capacity of strength that makes
him a protector over his wife and children. God created a man with
certain abilities and inner attributes that make him a natural leader.
Its not that a wife cannot protect her husband should the need arise but
it is not in her nature to do so. As we all know, most mothers will do
whatever it takes to protect her children from harm. It is not that a
wife cannot lead her family in the ways of the Lord but God has given
her a different role for her family, if she is married. Besides that, a
mother is a leader and a guide of her children until they are old enough
to lead and guide themselves.
Women become good examples to Christian young ladies when they allow
their husbands to be the overseer of the home and family in respectful
submission to his headship position.
In submitting to her husband she does not become a doormat. She
is not following her husband like a lost puppy dog, but merely submitting
her life to his trust by working with him as his helpmeet.
Together husband and wife make a beautiful example of marriage. She
submits because she loves God. That’s all submission is. It is
submitting to your husband’s God-given role. To NOT submit would be
rebelling against God. Submission is not cowering under a demanding,
controlling, tyrannical or abusive husband—that’s fear!
When we apply our roles as given to us by the teachings of Jesus Christ,
a husband oversees his family through the Word of God, while the wife,
through her submissive role helpmeets her husbands headship. Therefore
she becomes her husband’s helper in her role as a helpmeet. Her
helpmeet role brings intimacy, togetherness and harmony—it does not
usurp her husband’s role as head over her.
In marriage the helpmeet role is appointed to the wife because that’s
the way God designed women; God designed women to be more attuned to
details and the care giving aspect of the home management. A helpmeet
wife manages her home in the ways that her husband has overseen her to
do it, although details and other necessities are left up to her
discretion. A husband who micro-manages his wife needs to pray about
that and figure out why he needs to do such a thing.
Titus 2:3-5 tells us a little bit more about a women’s role. It says:
the aged women, likewise, that they be in behavior as becometh holiness,
not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things.
That they may teach the young women to be discreet, chaste,
keepers of the home and obedient to their own husbands, that the word of
God cannot be blasphemed.
Titus 2:7, shows us one example of a husbands responsibilities as
overseer of his marriage and as a man of God. It says: In all things
shewing thyself a pattern of good works: in doctrine shewing
incorruptness, gravity, sincerity, sound speech that cannot be
condemned; that he that is of the contrary part may be ashamed having no
evil thing to say of you.
A husband’s job is to show a pattern (consistent) of good works to his
wife through the Word of God. This makes so much sense since it is the
husband who cleanses his wife through the Word of God. It is Gods Word
that cleanses us and makes us Holy. (Ephesians 5:25-26) Do you notice
how it says “shewing” a pattern of good works and not
“telling”. Husbands are to show a pattern of good works and sound
speech so that those who oppose the Word of God may be ashamed because
they truly “see” nothing corrupt about you, therefore have nothing
evil to say.
The role of husband/father is not one of nurturing but one of
practicality, functionality, sincerity, incorrupt teaching, showing God’s
way in himself FIRST for order and harmony in the home. Husbands are the
ministers of their home.
God’s design for marriage is amazing and beautiful! Sincere Christian
living is a lifestyle—it is not something that we only read about but
something that we do as Godly men and women of God. If we profess to be
Christ Ones then we must live what Christ taught in our
daily lives. When we adhere to the roles that were purposed for us, our
lives become abundantly blessed!
We truly serve others best through being good examples. We should live
so others can see Christ in us! Husbands should be examples as the
overseer of his family and as role models to younger men who are not yet
married. Timothy 4:12 shows men more on leadership in the home and in
society. It says: be thou an example of the believers, in word, in
conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.
And wives are you being a good role model wife to the young Christian
ladies who are not yet married? Can others see Christ working in you?
Are you respectful and obedient to your husband’s headship position?
As God’s people we should strive to be faithful to God’s purpose for
our lives, as husbands and wives to our marriage and men and women in
society.
For I have given you an example, that ye should do as I have done to
you. (John 13:15
What is Wifely Submission?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bMHRNmBnYnY
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