Christian
Marriage Advice - Guys Prepare
Before You Get Married - 4 Tips
Copyright 2010 Heaven
Ministries ~ Marriage Preparation - Godly Courtship
What prepares a guy for
marriage besides the obvious of being able to provide for his family is
knowing his position in the marriage. Many good Christian people rush
into marriage only to wonder why they feel so stressed out and unhappy.
It is because husbands and wives are not managing the marriage in the
ways of the Lord. God designed marriage and He knows what works best. Knowing
and then procuring your position in marriage is by far the most
important aspect of a guys preparation to marriage.
1) Know and Procure
Your God-given Role
If ever there was a time
to be right about something in your life it is in who you are as a man,
husband, and father in relation to your Creator. Don't allow others to
form you, mold you and tell you who you are as a man. God created man
FIRST in His image, and then woman was created from the man, therefore
for this reason alone it shows the hierarchy of husband and wife. Man is
head over his wife. Man is not better than woman in any way shape or
form, but God made him to be the captain of his ship and made Eve to be
the first-mate. No ship has ever, ever had two captains.
2) Don't be Afraid to
Carry Out Your God-given Role
A couple can be
dead broke and the marriage still stay afloat if the husband knows how
to love, protect, and take care of his wife by the design that God meant
for him to. I believe that a man who is married has way more
responsibilities than his wife, just for the fact that he is the man and
in charge of how everything is managed-he is the decision maker and the
main disciplinary, and the one who can't let his emotions get too out of
hand, for everyone else in the household. He is the CEO but he will find
that being the CEO for his marriage comes with many more
responsibilities than being a CEO of a company. He has to keep it
together for everyone else. There is a togetherness--a bond that no one
can tear apart when a man and woman love each other according to
Christ-built love.
3) Search For Inner
Beauty and Fruits
This is such an important step
in being prepared for marriage that it should not be discounted or
overlooked by the lust of the flesh or the deception of your eyes of
outside beauty. Be smart and search for the character within the young
lady you have in question for a lifetime soul-mate. I cannot tell you
how much better your marriage will be by not allowing your emotions to
get too involved in the wrong woman, only to find out after marriage
that she is rebellious to your headship position. Don't rush into
marriage. Know what you want and search for it with much prayer.
4) Don't Let Yourself Be
Deceived
Did you know that there are
Christian women who don't know they are feminist? How can that be? It
can be because of how they were raised and how the churches have skewed
the meaning of what true headship and submission means in marriage. Just
because a young lady goes to church and attends a Christian college does
not mean she will not be rebellious to your protection and care for her.
Christian schools are not any different than Christian culture among
unbelievers.
So guys if you take your
headship position with the seriousness that it deserves you will be
patient in choosing a wife, you will hold discernment and wisdom close
to your heart, and you will seek God's will for you in much prayer and
soul-searching for the right woman to come into your life. Always
remember to search for the fruits from within and not just the beauty on
the outside. Don't let yourself be deceived!
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