7
Reasons Why You Should Stay a Virgin Until Marriage
Heaven Ministries
Sex
between two married people is a very beautiful aspect of marriage. God
has blessed us with the ability to give and receive physical pleasure
with the one we are married to. But when we give ourselves to another
before marriage, sex becomes something else altogether.
1) Lust and
Fornication Are Sins
Why do you think
God made fornication a sin? I mean, on the outside it seems like a lot
of fun to have sex and to flirt with feelings of lust. No one is really
hurting anyone, right? Wrong! Sex before marriage always, always hurts
someone, and for many reasons which we will get into.
God’s desire is for single people, young and old is to remain
sexually and emotionally pure for marriage. When young couples go into
marriage with such purity and anticipation for one another, the marriage
thrives.
2) Virginity is a
Precious Gift to Bring to Your Spouse
What
a precious gift of love and purity to share yourself only with the one
you married. It creates the “one flesh” of marriage even more
beautiful and sacred. But
perhaps some of you reading this have erred and are not a virgin
anymore. Let me tell you, its ok. God still loves you and wants you to
have a blessed marriage.
Ask
for forgiveness and turn away from the “attitude of going out on a
date” and God will forgive you. Flee from temptation and stop dating
because 95% of the time dating leads to sex. Having likeminded friendships
in the Lord is much better than dating. Don’t give your heart
away! Your emotional and spiritual self is a precious commodity—save
it for your spouse, you will be so very happy that you did.
3) The
Risk of Pregnancy
Children
are precious, beautiful people of God, and everyone needs to experience
being a parent at sometime in their life. But God does not want us to
concern ourselves with the responsibilities of children until we are
ready and capable of caring for their needs properly.
Bringing
children into the world out of wedlock is not fair to the child or to
you. Terminating our unborn child is not fair to them either. It is
always best and God’s ideal for single women to not have children and
to remain sexually abstinent until marriage. Then, when you both are
ready to have a child, financially, emotionally and spiritually, God
will bless you with children.
4)
Multiple Heartaches From Dating
Sexual
intimacy bonds two hearts together in such a way that they become
emotionally attached to one another and feelings of desires are confused
with love. Most dating relationships are not based on love, but on the
desire aspect of the relationship. Dating does not lead up to a healthy
marriage. Dating leads up to heartbreak because eventually one party
will want out of the relationship. Heartbreak after heartache develops a
cold, callous heart. It also can develop other negative emotions such as
jealousy, suspicion, and mistrust because this too is part of the dating
scene. Dating has too many negative emotions attached to it. It is
God’s desire that single people have friendships in the Lord and do
not date.
5)
Virginity is Cool
I
don’t care what anyone says, virginity is cool! A woman who can remain
a virgin until marriage this day and age is a courageous and Godly
woman, and I commend her on her ability to turn away from what the
crowds are doing. Losing your virginity before marriage is not cool. Ask
any older woman with values, who has been there and done that already,
and she will tell you to wait until your are married too. That’s
because we know that when a young person wants to have sex before
marriage, it’s only feelings of desire talking—there is not love
there.
As
Christian people, we need to be more concerned with what God wants us to
do, not what our friends are doing, or what anyone asks us to do. If it
does not come from Jesus Christ or Christ’s principles then it should
not be a part of our Christian life and shouldn’t be done.
6)
Sexual Purity is God’s Plan For You
God
wants Christians, young and old to stay pure for marriage. It’s His
plan! When a Christian
person disobeys God’s calling for them, there is always consequences.
These consequences may be emotional attachments that break our hearts,
unwanted pregnancies, or a venereal disease. God does not make these bad
things happen to us. We make these bad things happen to us because of
the choices we make in our life. Let’s choose what God wants. Let’s
pray about it and seek God’s will for our life always and forever.
7)
Fornication is NOT healthy
Most
of the time in a intimate relationship, young people don’t even really
know the person they are having sex with. The only thing intimate about
the relationship is the sex aspect of it. Did you meet their parents? Do
you know what they do in their spare time? Perhaps they have a venereal
disease or worse, HIV or AIDS. Physically speaking, casual sex is very
dangerous. These relationships can cause many kinds of infections and
other health ailments. Emotionally speaking, these relationships cause a
defensive, calloused heart and teach young people to base love on
feelings rather than something they do.
Single Christian
people should wait on God. They should have all the friendships they
want based on the foundation of respect and brotherly and sisterly love.
The best marriage spouses are with those who first respected you
physically, sexually, emotionally and spiritually. Remember, the minute
your emotions take over and rule the relationship, the minute you will
stop feeling respect and real love for one another. God wants our
emotions to follow our lead, not lead our lives. To find out what
God’s plan is for you in the romance department, read our new ebook—How
To Prepare For a Rock Solid Marriage! |