5 Reasons Why You Should Not
Jump Into Marriage
Heaven Ministries Copyright
1. Marriage Does Not Solve Problems
Many young couples seem to think that once they
settle down and get married that all of their problems will disappear.
Some people are unhappy or lonely being single and they jump into
married life for the wrong reasons. But marriage alone will not make you
happy, and it will not solve emotional, personal or sexual problems you
may be going through. I highly encourage all couples, at whatever age,
to heal themselves of any personal issues first before jumping into
marriage. You will definitely be a more loving marriage partner because
2. Marriage Is Not A Good Reason For Leaving Home
Some young women have this “hurry up, leave home
and get married attitude” and I think it is because they have been
highly conditioned into believing that a man of their dreams is going to
whisk them off into a Cinderella/Prince Charming situation and they will
live happily forever. We can blame fairytales and TV for that. This
notion is so NOT true. Some young ladies are in a hurry to get away from
mom and dad so they can do what they want, but if you rush into
marriage, you will regret it, just like many young couples have. Getting
married is not a good reason to leave home. When you are young you are
way better off being at home and under the protection of your parents.
3. Marriage Takes Total Teamwork
Everything in marriage takes team effort. Husband
and wife each do their own part that keeps the marriage running
smoothly, healthy and strong. In a healthy marriage, both husband and
wife serve (love) one another. The wife doesn’t have the brunt of the
responsibilities and neither does the husband. In a godly marriage the
wife has her roles and responsibilities that she attends to and the
husband has his. When couples adhere to their God-given roles not only
do they compliment each other but also fulfill the needs of each other
in the ways set out for them by God.
4. Marriage Takes Absolute Commitment
You cannot get married thinking if it doesn’t
work out you can get a divorce. With an attitude like that you will get
a divorce. Marriage takes
total commitment from both husband and wife because marriage is designed
for a lifetime. Submission is mutual commitment. This is how husband and
wife submit to each other’s needs. Marriage is a service. If you
aren’t up to sharing yourself for the rest of your life with someone,
don’t get married. Commitment is love.
If you are not ready to forgive and show compassion then you are
not ready for marriage.
Commitment is to know in your heart that once you
are married there is no looking back. Don’t look back or the marriage
may just turn into a pillar of salt. If you even start to look back, you
will do things that are not in service to your spouse and the marriage
will most likely end in divorce or be terribly unhappy. A committed
heart always perseveres forward running the race set out for him or her.
Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial,
because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life
that God promised to those who love him. (James 1:12 NIV)
5. Marriage Takes A Forgiving Attitude
Everyday you will need to forgive your spouse. This
is why it is so important to understand what forgiveness really is.
Forgiveness, like love and service, is commitment. Truly forgiving
others the way Jesus has forgiven us, leads to complete wellness of mind
and inner healing. This is why when we forgive others when they have
hurt us, we feel so much better about ourselves. We understand a little
bit more about the person that God created us to be. We can forgive
others completely by knowing that God has forgiven us completely.
Complete forgiveness takes a new attitude and
change of heart. Forgiveness is love!
God wants you to forgive and restore your relationship and love
the person you have been blessed with.
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving
each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. (Ephesians 4:32 NIV)