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What You Should Know Before Getting Married

What You Should Know Before Getting Married

Christ and the Church: Living Symbol of Marriage

 Why Marriage Belongs 
to God

Why Christians Should Not Obtain a State Marriage License

Biblical Reasons For Marriage and to Stay Married

  • Husband and wife become One Flesh. Marriage is not designed for separation--nothing can separate the One Flesh of marriage. See Permanency of Marriage booklet. 
  • To love and serve God as One Flesh in marriage. And to love and serve one another as Christ loves and serves His Church-the people of Christ.
  • To bear Godly offspring for God. Remember the children belong to God. God has blessed us with being their caretakers.
  • To train up His children in the Lord.
  • To carry each others burdens and to encourage one another in marriage through the good times as well as the bad. 
  • To serve God by being an example to others who are struggling in marriage or thinking of getting married. 


Christ and the Church: Living Symbol of and Marriage
Ephesians 5:21-33 KJV 

God instituted and set aside marriage, from the world, for His purpose. Marriage was created for the purpose of glorifying the relationship of Christ and His Church. Believers (Christ followers) are the church!

As Christ and his Church are one body so is the husband one flesh with his wife. 

Marriage is submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God. (21)

Husband must first submit his will to Christ so that he can properly and voluntarily love his wife in the proper ways. (The way Christ loves the church, believers, his followers, disciples). A husband cannot love his wife in the ways of God if he himself is not a man of God. The man needs the Captain to help steer his family in the right direction. 

Wives submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the savior of the body. (22-23)

God designed for the husband to be the spiritual head of the wife and a wife should acknowledge her husbands headship position through voluntary submission. A wife should not be controlled to submit to her husband--it is a voluntary act just as is a individuals submission to Christ is a voluntary act.  If a husband were to make his wife submit to him then it is not submission any more and a husband is misusing his headship position.

Therefore as the church is subject unto Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. (24)

Who is the church? God's people are the church. The body of believers, the church (Christ followers) are to love and serve God with all of their heart, mind, and soul. This is the way a woman is to submit to her husband in everything.  For this step to be accomplished, a husband must first submit his own life to Christ so he will WANT to love and care for his wife as Christ does the church. Then the wife should want to voluntarily submit to her husbands spiritual lead. 

Husbands love your wives even as Christ also loved the church and gave himself for it. That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word. That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle, or any such thing, but that it should be holy and without blemish. (25-27)

Christ sacrificed his life for our life and that is how much He loves the church of believers--His followers. How did Christ serve the disciples? Jesus washed their feet and taught them in love and servitude? This is the way a husband is to love his wife. A husband washes his wife and makes her holy, without blemish for God through the Word of God. This is why it is called spiritual lead. 

So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself. For no man yet ever hated his own flesh; but nourisheth and cherisheth, even as the Lord does the church: (28-29)

Marriage is a sacred and holy relationship that needs tender loving self-sacrificing care every day! How should a husband love his wife? 

1) A husband should be willing to sacrifice everything for his wife's well being 
2) A husband should make his wife's well being of prime importance
3) He should care for her as he does his own body

Christ cleansed the church by the washing of baptism. It is God's Word that cleanses us. A husband is to cleanse his wife with the word through his actions. This is why it is very important that a husband FIRST submit his life to Jesus Christ so his wife will WANT to submit to him!!

For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones. (30)

The body of believers are united with Christ in marriage.

For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. (31)

The one flesh of marriage means caring for each other as you would care for yourself by helping each other become all you can be in the Lord Jesus Christ. God gave Adam and Eve the gift of marriage--they were created perfect for each other. Gods institution of marriage has three basic aspects. 

1) The man leaves his parents and promises himself to his wife
2) The man and woman are joined together by taking responsibility for each others well being and loving each other more than self. 
3) The man and woman become one flesh in the intimacy and commitment of the sexual union, which is reserved for marriage.

Strong marriages include all three of the above aspects. 

This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. (32)

Nevertheless let everyone of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. (33)

If a husband submits his life to Christ he will not have a difficult time loving his wife in the ways of the Lord, and if a wife is loved from her Godly husband the way Christ has shown his love for his people, the church, then she will not have any problems submitting to her husband. This is the way marriage is intended to be. It is God's design and ideal for marriage!

The establishment of marriage is also found in Genesis 2:24 and Matthew 19: 4-6


Why Marriage Belongs to God

Marriage is a sanctified and holy union between a man and a woman and is set apart from the world for God and his purpose. 

“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator made them male and female, and said, “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate. (Matthew 19:4-6)

The First Marriage Was Between Adam and Eve

The Lord God said, “It is not good for a man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” (Genesis 2:18) 

So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh she shall be called woman for she was taken out of man.” Genesis 2:21-23)

God gave marriage as a gift to Adam and Eve. And therefore marriage is a gift to us. The two become one flesh in the intimacy and commitment of sexual union that is designed specifically for marriage. The sexual union consummated the marriage. This does not mean that two people who have sex are automatically married. 

The Marriage Contract Cannot Be Broken

Permanency of marriage was God’s intention. Jesus says in no uncertain terms that marriage is a lifetime commitment. To leave your spouse and marry another may be legal but it is adultery in God’s eyes. God designed marriage to be indissoluble. 

Jesus said, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and the man who marries a divorced woman commits adultery. (Luke 16:18)

Marriage Can Be Recorded In Family Bible

The definition of a "license" demands that we not obtain one to marry. Black's Law Dictionary defines "license" as, "The permission by competent authority to do an act which without such permission, would be illegal." We need to ask ourselves, why should it be illegal to marry without the State's permission? More importantly, why should we need the State's permission to participate in something that God instituted?
(Gen. 2:18-24)

Buy a Family Bible, which contains birth and death records, and a marriage certificate and record your marriage in the Family Bible. What's recorded in a Family Bible will stand up as legal evidence in any court of law in America.

Marriage Is A Living Symbol of Jesus Christ and the Church

…For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the Church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the Church submits to Christ, so also wives’ should submit to their husbands in everything. (Ephesians 5:23-24) 

This is a profound mystery-but I am talking about Christ and the Church. (Ephesians 5:32)

In Jesus’ day, women, children, and slaves were to submit to the head of the family. Slaves submitted until they were freed, male children until they grew up, and girls and women their whole life. The bible tells believers to submit to one another out of respect because it preserves order and harmony. According to the Bible, the man is the spiritual head of the family, and the wife should honor God and her husband through submission.



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