Godly Courtship in Preparation to Marriage
September 17, 2012

A New Perspective about God and His Will for YOU (Facebook Part 2)


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For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,
saith the LORD.  Isaiah 55:9


If our ways were Gods ways then we would not be doing many things we are doing today. God teaches us His ways and if we know it is the right way then we become a new person in Jesus Christ. If we scoff at Gods ways then we have gone our own way. 

It is our Father in heaven who shows us a new perspective about the world and about Him and our relationship with Him. And when we gain that new perspective we are then able to put on a new heart and mind and let the old person die to the things of the world.  Only then do we realize that we have deceived ourselves.

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable,
and perfect, will of God. Romans 12:2

Transformed by changing the way you think and being renewed in your mind.

The world and its follies (facebook, etc) will always be in the world but God says that His followers are not to be in the world and be involved in the things of this world. And yet many of us seem to be controlled by facebook and other things like it in the world.  

Because our view is incomplete and our thoughts limited we have to ASK God to give us His understanding and wisdom. We are nothing without understanding the ways of God and then applying that understanding and wisdom into our lives.

For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways,
saith the LORD.  Isaiah 55:9

Many of us do not see or understand God’s perspective; our vision is too small because we are focusing our eyes only on our own desires and needs. We want so much to be admired, loved, and to be a part of something bigger, better, neater than ourselves, and it is through false tools, programs, flattery, and agendas that people become deceived.  Many people, young and old are consumed by facebook and other things in and of the world.

Only God can change people and make them see the truth. God gives us knowledge and wisdom, and understanding to know the truth; to know if what we are doing is good for us or not. God shows us through His ways that we DO NOT NEED these things in the world that are controlling many of us today.

People (even those who profess to be Christians) think they can save themselves. Sadly, many professed Christians believe that works of righteousness will save them from damnation. As long as they “go to church” as long as they “are baptized”, as long as they tithe, and as long as they help the needy, Jesus Christ will pardon their sins and allow them to live as they please and desire now...they have been given grace.  Have they truly been given grace?

And he said unto them, Ye are they which justify yourselves before men; but God knoweth your hearts: for that which is highly esteemed among men is abomination in the sight of God. Luke 16:15

This small and limited view of God and the things of God is what keep people from God!!!  They are wise in their own eyes. They worship knowledge that comes from institutions rather than knowledge and wisdom that comes from God. And, they idol worship mere people and things more than their Savior Jesus Christ.

The biggest sin we carry around with us is in our selfish (thinking) lifestyle. How we live today and what we do today will be our stumbling block for tomorrow.

But the LORD said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or on the height of his stature; because I have refused him:

…for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart. 1 Samuel 16:7

The above scripture is a perfect example of everything I have been talking about so far…

 for man looketh on the outward appearance.  The world and the things in the world take us away from what is real and true in our lives. We’re more concerned about getting on facebook to see what people think of us rather than what God thinks of us.

We have had several people write in to the ministry after we posted part 1 of this newsletter. Readers our letting us know that facebook is being abused in their home in some way. When a tool such as facebook is used to hide things from our spouse or to become unaccountable to our spouse, it has become a PROBLEM.

Here is what one married reader is going through in her marriage.

It’s very true, it’s devastating to know you can be cheated on facebook ... I was and my husband can't understand it, he feels that by him giving me his password it’s not accountability, its "invading his privacy" I don't trust him anymore and even though we're going thru counseling I have found myself growing apart from him, I feel that I can't pray anymore, like my emotions and disappointment have taken over, I would like to end this, but I know that when I married him I made a covenant not only with him but with God... Thank you for your ministry, I am truly blessed by your blogs.... Thank you -- Kary Ruiz

So what can you do about this issue in your marriage?

Send your spouse part 1 and part 2 of these newsletters; let them figure it out themselves, if they are open to hearing God’s message and perspective then wonderful. If they dismiss it, then you did your part in a “take action” kind of way. The rest is up to your spouse and God. Pray for your spouse to “see” the truth.  Be a good example to them by sending them your password to all of your email, chat, and social network accounts. Let them see YOU showing accountability!

They have to want to be accountable, not you tell them they need to be accountable. There’s a big difference.  Don’t whine, nag or complain for passwords – instead, be the light of Jesus. Let them see Jesus working in your life!

They have to be the ones to make a life transformation through Jesus Christ.  As much as you may be hurting over this, you can’t make that change for them.

(Remember,  as we said in part 1 of this newsletter, we are not outright saying that facebook is the “cause” of cheating or other immoral behavior, but we are saying, tools such as these do make it easier for people to behave in dishonest ways. It is a temptation and if someone has weak faith they will fall victim to it. Facebook, chat programs and other social networks on the Internet are merely tools; it is people that abuse those tools!  It doesn’t matter, online, offline, if the person has no morals and values to begin with, they’re going to cheat whether on facebook or some other way.)

…for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart. 1 Samuel 16:7

God’s ways show us what’s real and what is not. The thoughts of the Lord are unlimited and endless; His ways have no bounds. We will never fathom just how boundless and limitless God’s ways are, but because He gifts and blesses the faithful with knowledge and understanding of His ways, it is enough to have a change of perspective about how the world is and How we NEED God.

Have you been blessed with wisdom and knowledge?

God blesses us with the realization of the error of our ways so we can begin to truly live for Jesus Christ.  As Christ-ones is this not what we are supposed to be doing? This is what being a Christ-one is all about- living for Christ…living to please our Father…living to be good people and to be good examples for others. This is where real freedom is.

Many people believe taking care of their own needs and desires is where freedom is…but if we are controlled by anything of and in the world we are not free, but trapped. True freedom is God blessing us with His wisdom and knowledge.


Jesus said, He will be our Comforter, our Protector, our Counselor, our EVERTHING, and yet, many of us Christians go to facebook or go to mere men to be comforted, protected and counseled. This is our limited view of what being a Christ-follower is…it is sad that we have decided to allow ourselves to find happiness through outside circumstances and people rather than God.

 Our perspective and thoughts are so limited, we believe the lies and justify situations that can and will lead to sin in our lifestyle. One way married people do this is by having secret facebook pages and friends. We justify that our happiness and our desires are all that really matter. We do things in our lives that seem good and right but actually contradict the will of God.  

God does not say not to go on facebook but God does not say not to view your television either. It’s up to you what you do with things in and of the world. God does not micro-manage our lives and hen-peck us, telling us what to do and what not to do. God expects for us to already “know” or at least to be made aware of what is proper for our lives.

And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable,
and perfect, will of God. Romans 12:2

You must ask God to give you a new heart and mind to understand His ways and God will gift you with the knowledge and wisdom to “see” for yourself what is good and right for you in your life.  This is the NEW perspective about God and His will for YOUR life.

And that ye put on the new man, which after God is created in righteousness and true holiness. Ephesians 4:24

We will not understand God’s will for our lives if we are consumed by facebook and other things of the world. These things limit our view and keep us close-minded to the things of God…

These things of the world keep us faithless and dull for Jesus Christ. As a people who profess to be Christ-ones, is that where we want to be?

And have put on the new man, which is renewed in knowledge after the image of him that created him. Colossians 3”10


In Jesus Christ
Frank and Angie
Heaven Ministries – Marriage Healing Ministry

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