you ponder these next questions and answer them with honesty you will be
having a heart to heart with God. The most important aspect of having a
healthy marriage is to LOVE God with all of your heart and mind and
Have you dedicated your life to the Lord? What
does dedication mean to you? Describe who you are in the family of God.
What are your duties and obligations as a Christ follower?
God designed and established marriage, therefore He is the One who
controls it. He owns marriage! If you agree that when you marry
"your marriage" will belong to God then continue to question number two.
If you disagree then you may want to read Genesis again and do a thorough
Are you ready to accept your God-given role and position in your
marriage? For the husband it is a self-sacrifice submission to love
wife as Christ loved the church, the body of believers.
Christ sacrificed His life for ours--can you do that for your wife? For
the wife her role is loving submission to her
husbands headship position in the Lord. Do you agree? If you agree
then continue to next question, if you disagree better do some more
Do you think you are prepared to take your headship position seriously
and to do it with the same love that Christ has shown you? Explain in
what ways you are ready to be responsible and take the spiritual lead in
Do you think you are prepared to willingly submit to your
husband's protection and love for you? Explain why you think you
are ready to voluntarily submit to your husbands headship?
Submission is mutual. (Ephesians 5:21). Christ referred to this
"mutual submission" as filling of the Spirit in verse 18. The
command "BE FILLED means singing, making music, giving thanks, and
submitting to one other. (Ephesians 5: 19-21)
means to yield ones own rights--to give in for the sake of another.
Understand that a wife's submission does not mean to put her husband in
God's place, but shows rather that a woman ought to submit to her husband
as an act of submission to God.
clearly shows that submission is not one-sided, but a reciprocal
relationship of serving and loving one another. Head of the wife is
the analogy of Christ to the church as Christ is the head of the church
husband is head of the wife. (1 Corinthians 11:3)
What is accountability? Who are you accountable to? Self? God? Spouse?
Children? Explain on paper "why" you are accountable to self,
God, spouse and Children?
When married to another explain how
your life does not just
belong to you? What are your responsibilities in marriage? How do
the headship and submission roles help you to understand how to love your
Did you know that God created woman to be the helpmeet to her husband?
What does it mean
for the wife to be a helpmeet to her husband? (Genesis 2:18)
Read this article for added encouragement. Are you prepared to be
the helpmeet to your husband in the ways of the Lord?
Are you totally devoted to being married for life? Are you going into this
marriage with the intent of being married for the rest of your life or
that of your spouses life? Are you walking into marriage with divorce
being not an option? Please read Permanency of Marriage and discover the
teachings of Jesus Christ on marriage.
We are the created not the Creator! God is our source for everything under
the sun including our marriage. Are you prepared to put your faith and
trust in Jesus Christ and His principles for your marriage if and when
marriage problems enter into the marriage?